You can't wake up every morning with the feeling of, "Here we go... another battle with food."
We have to stop fighting our food. Every day should not be a battle with food. We shouldn't have to view life as an eating battleground. There is no reason to. Once you get over the "battle" and "fight" mentality, you will be able to overcome the weight battle.
A lot of people have strong emotional ties to food. We eat when we are happy, we eat when we are sad, we eat to celebrate, we eat for fun, we eat to just hang out, we eat at weddings, we eat at funerals, our lives are consumed by the food we consume. We have to break this cycle. It is a deeply rooted emotional cycle. We just have to stop.
Put your emotional attachments aside. There shouldn't be food at every event. There is no reason to just eat. If you are sad or happy, think with your mind, not your heart. It's 11PM, do you really need to go out for ice cream with your friends? Why not order water and watch them eat the ice cream?
We have to make smart choices, not emotional ones.
In pursuit of praise
A lot of people are motivated to lose weight so they can show off and watch people's reactions. They walk into a room and everyone comments on how great they look or how much weight they have lost. That makes us feel good. But it's a temporary reaction. What do you do when the newness of it wears off?
You have to lose weight for YOU! Sure, a few "Oooohs" and "Aaaahs" are nice in the beginning, but we are not pursuing praise or acceptance. We are trying to lose weight to become healthier, not so that people like us. We are not trying to have a six pack in our abdominal region, or a swimsuit body. We want to be healthier. Much, much, much more healthy than we are now. We aren't seeking praise or acceptance.
Acknowledging that fact will go a long way toward long term success of weight loss. We don't want to yo-yo diet and gain back our weight after a few people notice. We want longterm, lifelong success. We have to be in the right frame of mind.
Go on and lose weight for you! Not anyone else. Sure, praise will make us feel better for now, but that's not why we are doing this.